The Power of self-Reflection

Self-reflection is a powerful tool that not only helps us to discover our true motivations and who we are, but if done regularly, it can also help to align our lives with our most authentic self. We have thousands of thoughts per day, many of which tend to be self-destructive. By taking the time to focus our mental energy inwards, we allow ourselves the opportunity to positively grow and evolve. Self-reflection is the key to creating and living the life we dream.

How to Practice Self-Reflection

Here are some tips to help get you started:   

• Practice Free Writing. Block out a space of time where you can sit in silence and write without interruption. I recommend at least 10-15 minutes a day. Begin by getting into a comfortable position and simply write without thought, agenda, or concern for spelling and grammar. Allow yourself to write mindlessly for as long as your hand will flow. Tip: This becomes much harder the more you think about it! Just let go and write no matter how silly it may seem. It doesn't matter if everything that comes out feels like nonsense. The goal is to get yourself into the flow of writing, which will become easier every day. This is a powerful tool for self-reflection, especially when searching for answers to a specific life question.  
• Spend a Few Moments in Silence Every Day. Learn to check in with yourself daily to reflect on your day, and ask yourself these questions: "Did my thoughts, words, and actions align with my intentions?" "Did I act from a place of Love or fear?" "Was I the best that I could be today? If not, how can I respond differently in the future?" The answers may surprise you. Bonus: Meditate! 

• Be Honest with Yourself. If we can't be honest with ourselves, how can we expect others to be? Allow yourself to come face-to-face with all parts of you, even the ones that might not be as perfect, or pretty, or sweet. We can't grow without allowing ourselves the time to recognize and accept the things about ourselves that we want and need to change. Dare to explore all parts of yourself and dive deep within! 
• Step Outside of Yourself. Sometimes it can be hard to see from the inside out. Whenever this happens, try looking at yourself from the outside in. What do you see? Is who you are projecting to the world aligned with your deepest ideals and beliefs? If not, what can you change to more closely connect what you see with your authentic self? Sometimes who we think we are and how we're actually living our lives are two very different things. Learn to look at yourself objectively to ensure that you're living in alignment with the life you dream.  
• Allow Yourself to Change. There is no law or rule stating that who you were yesterday is who you must be today, or what (or who) you once liked must always hold true. The truth is: we are dynamic beings and growth and evolution are a vital part of our inner peace and joy. Don't be afraid to break your own boundaries, and allow yourself and who you are to evolve with time. 
• Trust Yourself. Know that only you know the path that is meant for you so take the time to tune into your inner voice and learn to trust your Intuition. The more you stop to listen and reflect, the more you'll learn to trust your Inner Guide and allow it to guide you.

Freeing Oneself from Ourselves....

Rage has many offspring (children), such as hate, anger, intolerance, insistence, irritation, obsession,

sarcasm (taunt), envy, the abuse of authority, impatience, the lack of forgiveness. Generally, it explodes when we want to control another or when our expectations have not been fulfilled.
Hate destroys your concentration and kills the capacity to act with dignity and excellence. You hate by justifying yourself in the other. You had expectations of them and they have let you down. They have wounded you and broken your heart. You answer this wound with revenge. You want to make them pay for it. You think that way you will do justice. This hate keeps you tied to the person that you hate. Instead of accepting them, forgiving them and letting go of them, you tie yourself to them more (attached), nourishing and increasing the pain and the conflict.
Can hate be justified? Can it improve things? Can hate be healthy in any circumstance? Hate affects your health; it poisons your heart, kills your inner peace and dries you of love and happiness; you stay isolated in your aloneness, filled with that rage.
Take a moment to reflect upon the last time that you hated someone. It might be difficult to see that your rage is created by no one but yourself. Although it seems that the behavior of the other person is responsible for your emotional state, the truth is that hate is your reaction. Each response that you create might be a conscious choice. You forget that you have the choice because it seems that the hate comes out of your inside in a natural way. In reality, you are allowing yourself to act driven by your automatic pilot, where your subconscious habits, which are based on your beliefs and your perception, influence, shape and control your conscious thoughts and actions. That is the sign of mental and emotional laziness; in that state, your intelligence sleeps and it is impossible to think with clarity and take precise decisions.
It is said, "It is impossible to get angry and to laugh at the same time," Rage and laughter cannot exist side by side and you have the sufficient power to choose either of the two. Each time that you choose to get angry due to the behavior of another person, you are depriving them of their right to be what they choose.
It’s worth wondering, what I need to change inside my belief system so that no feelings of revenge exist inside me for anyone irrespective of what someone has done to me. When someone harms me or insults me in any way, what is the belief that exists inside my inherent belief system that causes feelings of revenge to emerge inside me in the first place? It is the belief that whenever someone does something negative to me, he hurts me, he is the victimizer and I am a victim. I need to change that to – no one can never hurt me, but it’s what I do with someone’s negative actions, what shape I give the negative actions inside my mind, that causes me hurt, the choice lies with me.
Two people will do two different things inside their minds with the offensive or negative actions of a particular person – one will create feelings of anger, hatred, sorrow, etc which will give rise to the desire for revenge; the other will create feelings of peace, love and good wishes which will give rise to only forgiveness, with no room for revenge. In other words, two different people will respond in two different ways to the negativity of the so-called victimizer, depending on their belief system, their inherent personality or nature, their experience of similar negative actions in the past, either committed by the same person or by other people. All these factors will shape their perception of the other’s actions and the self. One will see the other or perceive the other as the victimizer and himself as a victim and another will not identify the other person with his negative actions, but will instead focus on his inherent positive nature or positive aspects of his current personality and will also remain unaffected himself.
The urge for revenge and the false taste of victory or happiness related to it can only end when the belief, that others are responsible for what you feel, is seen as a false one. Only when you take full responsibility for whatever thoughts and feelings you create will it be possible to end the anger and the hatred that seeks revenge. When someone hurts me, I create a negative image of myself and the other person in my mind’s eye, in different ways. I see myself and the other in a negative light, myself as a victim and the other person as a victimizer. I need to stop doing that and see myself and the other in a positive light, in the same light as before, irrespective of the negativity that the other has radiated to me. When we do that, we will stop pointing the finger at others for whatever hurt we may feel. Only when it is fully seen and accepted that someone can hurt or harm my vehicle, the physical body, but not me, the controller or driver of the vehicle, will rage and the desire for revenge stop existing inside my consciousness.
When I start seeing the person who has committed some negative action which is projected towards me, with an innocent, unbiased, untarnished vision, hatred will be transformed into love and compassion for both, me and the other person. Then it will be possible to be totally free of all judgment, criticism and any desire to seek justice and take pleasure and experience victory when justice is delivered. Only then will it be possible to rediscover true happiness in life, because as long as there is even the slightest trace of an urge to seek revenge for what someone has done to me, and the desire to experience the false happiness which is experienced when such revenge is delivered; both of which, the happiness and the revenge, are forms of subtle violence; true everlasting and deep peace, contentment and happiness can never be experienced.

Mind Your Own Business

Are you spending all your time in other people’s business? Is your energy and effort spent minding other people’s concerns?
I am not referring here to gossiping, rumour mongering or any such vice. I am referring to the thing that makes thousands of people in this country get up early in the morning, leave their families and their homes and make a mad dash through crazy traffic like it’s the end of the world.
That thing is work. More specifically, it is employment. Whether in the formal or informal sector it is the dominant activity in many of our lives throughout the world. It is a necessary evil for most of us because deep down we would rather not be working for anyone else, but somehow we accept that it is the only way to get by.
Once the paycheck arrives at the end of the month we feel relieved, though only for a little while, that we have our needs met. By the 10th of the month the waiting starts all over again. We have to endure the rest of the month until the next paycheck.
That is a reality for a lot of people throughout the world. We have become slaves to our salaries. “Making a living” is killing us. It should be making our lives better.
Entrepreneurial motivation - who are you working for?
When you go to work everyday, whose purpose are you fulfilling? It is the purpose of the company or organization you are working for. You are employed to help your organization achieve its objectives. If someone else took over your position they would still do the same things you do in order to achieve the organization’s objectives.
If you are working for an individual the same reasoning applies. You are working to fulfill the purpose given to you by that individual. In both cases you are minding someone else’s business.
Entrepreneurial motivation - you are not what you do
However the situation gets more complex: many of us have been led into the belief that the organisation’s purpose is our own purpose. We whole-heartedly take up the cause of the organisation as our own. Our thoughts and ideals slowly but surely come to be replaced by those of our workplace. We become the perfect employees.
What’s wrong with that? Everything. You are not what you do. Your work is not who you are. Unfortunately, our education system hasn’t helped in this regard. It has trained us to become what we study. If you study law you become a lawyer, studying auto mechanics makes you a mechanic and studying cooking makes you a cook.
“The mistake in becoming what you study is that too many people forget to mind their own business. They spend their lives minding someone else’s business and making that person rich.”Those are the wise words of Robert Kiyosaki, author of Rich Dad Poor Dad.
Entrepreneurial motivation - work to develop yourself
Firstly, it should be a way of learning and getting more knowledge and skills. People that work simply for the purpose of getting paid are often not the most productive people. It is those that realise the value that working is adding to their knowledge and skills as individuals that always perform better and that are always ready for the next challenge.
Such people know that what they will get from their job will ultimately help them to mind their own business by equipping them with what they need mentally to be able to fulfill their own purpose.
Entrepreneurial motivation - work to invest
Secondly, working should be a means of being able to meet your basic needs whilst you work on your real purpose. Everything worthwhile takes time to build and become self sustaining and profitable. During this building phase you obviously need something to help you along.
Entrepreneurial motivation - work for financial independence
Thirdly, it should be a way of raising the finances needed to be able to mind your own business. Your salary is not meant to be spent as soon as it is received. Robert Kiyosaki says “the poor and middle class work for money. The rich have money work of them.” Some of the money you earn should be utilized in helping you to become financially independent. It should be invested. That may be in the form of having a business, buying stock or shares or anything else, so long as your money is growing. Your money should be put to work for you.
Entrepreneurial motivation - delay gratification
Unfortunately, the more we earn the more we spend on luxury items. Everyone wants an expensive car and a humongous house. That’s good. Just make sure that you get those things after you have built up a good financial base. Would a smaller house and a cheaper car not do in the meantime? Of course it would. Maybe you can invest the rest of the money into something that will yield far greater benefits in the long run.
The employee mentality is what keeps most of us slaves to the economy and other people. We need to stop minding other people’s business and start minding our own. At the very least we should do both. But do both well.
Entrepreneurial motivation - conclusion
Paul the apostle said “that you study to be quiet, and to do your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you… that you may have lack of nothing.” This statement was made close to two thousand years ago. Are we so slow to learn that up to this time we don’t understand its message?
As a dreamer, you need to understand its significance and mind your own business. Never lose track of your vision for your life. Do not ever get so busy making a living that you forget to live your life.
You are all you can be. Go on and be it!

Bouncing Back after Loosing All....

 As long as you’re alive and breathing, you can ‘bounce back’, despite losing out all the faith inside you. First and foremost thing is to Never Give Up, and it should be followed by digging a base of belief; the deeper you build it, stronger you’ll find yourself.

Look in the mirror and say, “So, what if I failed?” or maybe something like, “Yes, I failed…so what?”
What you need to understand about bouncing back is do not try to make it big and weak, start with small and strong… and let everything find its own place and pace.
Here’s what you need to do:

•  Keep your conscious calm
• Build your body and mind strong
• Work on the confidence
• Cut off the source of negativity from life
• Surround yourself with nature in its raw form and squeeze out all the love that was always meant to be yours.

All that we need to pull back ourselves out of the abyss of misery and despair is a tiny bit of courage. No matter how much you deject, but you’ll end up finding it within your self.
Remember, ‘self’ isn’t constant and is an ever-changing thing. So, what you were before, is now in past and the future gets a more skilled, experienced and a stronger being.
Keep reminding yourself to convince ‘the old you’ that it has no place in the future and that you will rise above of what all had put you down in the first place. And it can only come by letting your conscious delve into prayers and love all around.
Adding to this a Quora user shared, “Those who no longer believe they can overcome obstacles, realize their dream, win, change their shitty lives, quit the job they hate/ stop climbing the wrong ladder and start a new career, those people will find themselves on a slippery slope pretty soon.

How to Rebalance Your Life

 In investing, there is something called rebalancing your portfolio. A portfolio has different asset classes in it (such as stocks, bonds, and cash), and there is a particular allocation that best serves your financial goals.

Over time, however, your portfolio might go out of balance. One asset class might outweigh the others because its price increases rapidly. The allocation will then deviate from its ideal.
What should we do then? How can we handle such a situation?
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Rebalancing is the act of getting the asset allocation back to its ideal. You do it by selling the asset class that’s overweight and buying the one that’s underweight. With this, your portfolio will once again be in a good shape to serve your financial goals.
I believe that the idea of rebalancing also applies to life. You need to make sure that your life is balanced and if it’s not, you need to rebalance it.
In investing, the asset classes are stocks, bonds, and cash. In life, the ‘asset classes’ are then five aspects of life:

• Spiritual: your relationship with the greater power.
• Health: your physical health.
• Work: your career and finance.
• Social: your relationships with others.
• Learning: your personal development.

We need to rebalance our lives from time to time. Here are the steps to do that:
1. Find the aspects that are underweight.
Look at each of the five aspects. Which ones do you think are underweight? Which ones do you think need more attention?
2. Find the aspects that are overweight.
Now, do the opposite and find the ones that are overweight. Where do you spend so much time and energy that it takes away from the other aspects? Which aspect dominate everything else?
For many people, the answer might be work.
There is another possibility actually. It’s idleness. This is when you do things that are not included in the five aspects above. For example, you might be watching too much TV. In such a case, it’s the idleness that’s overweight.
3. Find ways to reduce the overweight aspects.
Next, you need to find ways to reduce the resources taken by the overweight aspects. Think about how you can spend less time there. Think about how you can become more efficient.
There are three actions that you could take:
Set boundaries. For example, you might decide that you won’t work past 6 p.m every day. Such a boundary will push you to become more efficient at work because your time is now limited.
Eliminate. Decide not to do certain things. Say no to them. Use the 80/20 principle to focus only on the few important things 
Delegate. If you can’t eliminate something, find ways to delegate it to someone else.
4. Spend more resources on the weak aspects.
Now that you have freed up some resources, put them into the weak aspects.
The key here is to plan ahead what you are going to do. If not, your extra time might only be spent on idleness which is the default way of spending time for most people.
If the weak aspect is learning, for instance, think about how you are going to learn. You might want to buy a book and put it beside your sofa to remind you to read. You might even want to set an alarm to remind you to read.
Remember, a new behavior won’t happen automatically. You need to plan for it to happen.
5. Review your life regularly.
Just because you have rebalanced your life once doesn’t mean that it will stay balanced forever. Over time, things might go out of balance once again.
That’s why you need to review your ‘life portfolio’ regularly. Doing a weekly or monthly review is a good way to do that.

How to Motivate Yourself...

 If you want to excel in life, self motivation is essential. You must know how to motivate yourself. You must be able to keep your spirit high no matter how discouraging a situation is. That’s the only way to get the power you need to overcome difficulties. Those who are discouraged in difficult times are certain to lose even before the battle is over.

The question is: how do you motivate yourself? Here are several tips I’ve found to be effective to build self motivation:
1. Have a cause
I can’t think of a more powerful source of motivation than a cause you care about. Such cause can inspire you to give your best even in the face of difficulties. It can make you do the seemingly impossible things.
While other causes could inspire you temporarily, a cause that matters to you can inspire you indefinitely. It’s a spring of motivation that will never dry. Whenever you think that you run out of motivation,  you can always come to your cause to get a fresh dose of motivation.

2. Have a dream. A big dream.
Only as high as I reach can I grow, only as far as I seek can I go, only as deep as I look can I see, only as much as I dream can I be.       Karen Ravn Your cause is a powerful source of motivation but it’s still abstract in nature. You need to make it concrete in the form of a dream. Imagine how the world will be in the future. Imagine how people will live and work.
Having a dream is important because it’s difficult to be motivated if you don’t have anything to shoot for. Just think about people who play basketball. Will they be motivated to play if there is no basket to aim at? I don’t think so. They need a goal. You need a goal. That’s what your dream is for.
But just having a dream is insufficient. Your dream must be big enough to inspire you. It must be realistic but challenging. It must stretch your ability beyond your comfort zone.
3. Be hungry
Wanting something is not enough. You must hunger for it. Your motivation must be absolutely compelling in order to overcome the obstacles that will invariably come your way.      Les Brown
To be truly motivated, you need to have hunger and not just desire. Having mere desire won’t take you through difficult times since you don’t want things badly enough. In many cases, hunger makes the difference between the best performers and the mediocre ones.
How can you have hunger? Your cause and your dream play a big role here. If you have a cause you care about and a big dream related to it, you should have the hunger inside of you. If you think that you are losing hunger, all you need to do is to connect again to your cause and dream. Let them inspire you and bring the hunger back.

4. Run your own race
I do not try to dance better than anyone else. I only try to dance better than myself.
Mikhail Baryshnikov
Comparing yourself with others is an effective way to demotivate yourself. Even if you start with enthusiasm, you will soon lose your energy when you compare yourself with others.
Don’t let that happen to you. You have your own race so how other people perform is irrelevant. Comparing yourself with others is like comparing the performance of a swimmer with a runner using the same time standard. They are different so how can you compare one with the other?
The only competitor you have is yourself. The only one you need to beat is you. Have you become the best you can be?
5. Take one more step
Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.   Winston Churchill
When you meet obstacles along the way, there could be the tendency to quit. You may think that it’s too difficult to move on. You may think that your dream is impossible to achieve. But this is where you can see the difference between winners and losers. Though both of them face the same difficulties, there is one thing that makes the winners different: the courage to continue.
In difficult situations, just focus on taking one more step forward. Don’t think about how to complete the race. Don’t think about how many more obstacles are waiting for you. Just focus on taking the next step.
6. Let go of the past
Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could.
Ralph Waldo Emerson Believe it or not, one of the best demotivators is your past. Your past can drag you down before you realize it. Your past can give you a heavy burden on your shoulders.
The good news is it’s a burden you don’t have to carry. Take it off your shoulder and leave it. You might make mistakes in the past. You might disappoint others with what you did. But it’s over. It’s already in the past and there’s nothing you can do about it.
Today is a new day and you have the chance to start again. No matter how bad your past might be, you still have a bright future ahead waiting for you. Just don’t let the burden of the past stop you.

                Don’t settle for mediocrity. Let your self motivation take you to excellence.

What It Means to Be Loyal to Yourself

1. When you’re loyal to yourself, you take the time to know yourself.

Usually we’re great at knowing the people around us—what the kids watch on TV, how the boss likes her coffee, what our partners find sexy—and have very little idea of what actually brings us joy. And even if we do, how often do we give it priority?
You don’t have to be a raging egotist to value your own happiness as much as you do the neighbors’ kids’ friend’s pet rabbit, but you might think that was the case if you really examined how you allocate your time and energy. Usually it seems that everyone else—everyone—comes ahead of us. Being loyal to yourself means that you not only know what makes you happy, but you actually make sure you get enough of it to feel happy.

2. You like yourself!

That’s a stretch for a lot of us. We are often so much harder on ourselves than we would be on anyone else. Listen to how you talk to yourself routinely. Do you encourage and congratulate yourself, or only berate and exhort? Would you ever dream of talking to a child that way?
Being loyal to yourself means treating yourself gently, being kind and forgiving and generous. Seeing the good, and not just what we wish were different. Why is that so hard for us to do?
Maybe we think that we’ll never amount to anything if we don’t ride ourselves hard, but honestly, when did you ever find that kind of treatment motivating? We deserve better from ourselves.

3. You honor your own feelings.

Again, we are usually overly sensitive to others’ feelings and only too ready to deny or minimize our own. It’s possible to honor your feelings without either acting them out inappropriately or wallowing in them. It simply means that you are willing to pay attention to them, and to let them matter to you at least as much as everyone else’s feelings.
The biggest problem with prioritizing others’ feelings is that, unlike our own feelings, we have to guess about theirs. How do we really know? I spent many, many unprofitable hours in the past trying to figure out what other people thought about me. For some reason, I didn’t spend nearly as much time asking myself what I thought about them!
It’s incredibly liberating to get this one straight. When I’m loyal to myself, I care more about how I feel and a lot less about trying to figure out everyone else’s feelings. And strangely, the more I do this, the more other people seem to like me (hence the compliment from my friend).
There’s something very appealing about people who are simply honest and straightforward with their feelings. Others feel relaxed and at ease around them, because they can trust that there are no hidden agendas to figure out.

4. This honesty also allows you to be a more authentic version of yourself.

When you aren’t worrying so much about how others see you, you can show them who you really are. Not everyone will love you, it’s true—but those who do will be loving the real you, not the one you made up for public consumption. This you is actually much more interesting, anyway!
We lose so much when we trade in authenticity for social approval. We lose our spontaneity and zest for life. We lose confidence in our own judgment and taste. We lose ourselves, sometimes forever. And the world loses the contribution that only we can make.
When I started being loyal to my true, authentic self, I felt both scared and exhilarated. I wasn’t sure that other people would truly like and accept the strange, quirky person I knew myself to be at heart, but I liked myself ever so much better than when I was playing a phony part.
It takes a ton of energy to police your every word and action! When I stopped playing the role I thought was expected and started doing what I really wanted to do, I unleashed an incredible flow of creativity and joy.

5. You give other people permission to be loyal to themselves as well.

This makes the world a better place to be. The authentic self that you show the world calls out to the authentic selves in the people all around you. This is what we’re born for—relationships formed between two people who are being who they really, truly are. This kind of relationship will blow the socks off of any other relationship you’ve had.
We show others how to treat us by the way we treat ourselves. When you’re loyal to yourself—when you know and like yourself, honor your own feelings, and show up in an authentic way—it only makes you better able to love others as well. Self-love and self-honesty are the necessary foundations for love and honesty in any relationship. As Shakespeare wrote, you can’t be false to others when you remain true to yourself.
You will feel happier and more at peace, with yourself and the world.
All because you have chosen to be loyal to yourself.

Usually we’re great at knowing the people around us—what the kids watch on TV, how the boss likes her coffee, what our partners find sexy—and have very little idea of what actually brings us joy. And even if we do, how often do we give it priority?
You don’t have to be a raging egotist to value your own happiness as much as you do the neighbors’ kids’ friend’s pet rabbit, but you might think that was the case if you really examined how you allocate your time and energy. Usually it seems that everyone else—everyone—comes ahead of us. Being loyal to yourself means that you not only know what makes you happy, but you actually make sure you get enough of it to feel happy.

2. You like yourself!

That’s a stretch for a lot of us. We are often so much harder on ourselves than we would be on anyone else. Listen to how you talk to yourself routinely. Do you encourage and congratulate yourself, or only berate and exhort? Would you ever dream of talking to a child that way?
Being loyal to yourself means treating yourself gently, being kind and forgiving and generous. Seeing the good, and not just what we wish were different. Why is that so hard for us to do?
Maybe we think that we’ll never amount to anything if we don’t ride ourselves hard, but honestly, when did you ever find that kind of treatment motivating? We deserve better from ourselves.

3. You honor your own feelings.

Again, we are usually overly sensitive to others’ feelings and only too ready to deny or minimize our own. It’s possible to honor your feelings without either acting them out inappropriately or wallowing in them. It simply means that you are willing to pay attention to them, and to let them matter to you at least as much as everyone else’s feelings.
The biggest problem with prioritizing others’ feelings is that, unlike our own feelings, we have to guess about theirs. How do we really know? I spent many, many unprofitable hours in the past trying to figure out what other people thought about me. For some reason, I didn’t spend nearly as much time asking myself what I thought about them!
It’s incredibly liberating to get this one straight. When I’m loyal to myself, I care more about how I feel and a lot less about trying to figure out everyone else’s feelings. And strangely, the more I do this, the more other people seem to like me (hence the compliment from my friend).
There’s something very appealing about people who are simply honest and straightforward with their feelings. Others feel relaxed and at ease around them, because they can trust that there are no hidden agendas to figure out.

4. This honesty also allows you to be a more authentic version of yourself.

When you aren’t worrying so much about how others see you, you can show them who you really are. Not everyone will love you, it’s true—but those who do will be loving the real you, not the one you made up for public consumption. This you is actually much more interesting, anyway!
We lose so much when we trade in authenticity for social approval. We lose our spontaneity and zest for life. We lose confidence in our own judgment and taste. We lose ourselves, sometimes forever. And the world loses the contribution that only we can make.
When I started being loyal to my true, authentic self, I felt both scared and exhilarated. I wasn’t sure that other people would truly like and accept the strange, quirky person I knew myself to be at heart, but I liked myself ever so much better than when I was playing a phony part.
It takes a ton of energy to police your every word and action! When I stopped playing the role I thought was expected and started doing what I really wanted to do, I unleashed an incredible flow of creativity and joy.

5. You give other people permission to be loyal to themselves as well.

This makes the world a better place to be. The authentic self that you show the world calls out to the authentic selves in the people all around you. This is what we’re born for—relationships formed between two people who are being who they really, truly are. This kind of relationship will blow the socks off of any other relationship you’ve had.
We show others how to treat us by the way we treat ourselves. When you’re loyal to yourself—when you know and like yourself, honor your own feelings, and show up in an authentic way—it only makes you better able to love others as well. Self-love and self-honesty are the necessary foundations for love and honesty in any relationship. As Shakespeare wrote, you can’t be false to others when you remain true to yourself.
You will feel happier and more at peace, with yourself and the world.
All because you have chosen to be loyal to yourself.

Why Positive Thinking Doesn't Work and What does?

 

The self-help industry is completely flooded with the newest tips and strategies on how to think more positive more often. Oddly enough, attempting to see through a rose coloured lens all the time isn’t the solution to living a more fulfilling and joyful life. On top of that, it doesn’t even work.

Positive And Negative Thoughts Don’t Exist, You Just Think They Do

We make up what every single one of our thoughts mean. There is no universal meaning to our thoughts. There are universal feelings that we label, but each of those feelings means something different to each of us because we each have different thoughts that lead to those feelings.
Any given thought that you THINK is positive or negative is only that way because you THINK it is. You have labelled it so. Why do thoughts that lead to feeling happy have to be positive and thoughts that lead to feeling sad have to be negative?
Is it really such a negative thing to have thoughts that lead to feeling sad if you lose someone you loved dearly? Would you rather feel happy you lost them? One could argue that being happy in such a circumstance could be labelled as negative. It’s all a matter of perspective.

Judging vs Understanding

Judging leads us towards separating our thoughts into positive or negative compartments.
Understanding points toward the fact that we think. Through a simple understanding that we are thinking creatures and we aren’t in control, regardless of the content of our thinking, we can finally sit back and just watch the movie play out in our head.
Knowing that our thoughts have no life of their own allows us to not have to take them so seriously. None of our thoughts are real, not one. They only appear real because we give certain thoughts our full attention. This attention breathes life into a thought and that’s when they appear REAL.
Well, here’s the best news…

just because you have a thought in your head, this does not mean you have to act on it nor do you have to believe it. After all, it’s just a thought…until you think it’s not.

When we give our thoughts a life of their own, we feel the need to gain some control by attempting to banish the bad and embrace the good. We do this because we fear our thoughts are real, they have a sense of control over us, so we must take back control before they make us act out in ways we forbid.

How The Mind Really Works

The mind works like a projector. It reflects our own thoughts back to us and we call what we see “reality”. We’re watching the movie of our own mind, we’re not the movie, and therefore we’re not our thoughts.
Sure, we can direct the film through editing the speed, colour, and sound, but what we cannot do is create the film. We don’t even have control over which film gets placed into the projector.

Where Our Thoughts Actually Come From

This remains a mystery. This mystery is what religion, mystics, and spiritual leaders try to put into words that which cannot be described with words.
What we do know is that we don’t create our thoughts, we receive them and we observe them. Similarly to how we listen to a radio, and if we don’t control what is on the radio, what control do we have?

The Repercussions Of Always Trying To Think Positive

Firstly, if your expectation is that you should always think positive then you will be thoroughly disappointed. You’re setting yourself up for failure, this is one battle you will never, ever win.
Your frustrations during this battle will generate their own negative thoughts by way of continuous judgement of yourself for not gaining control. This will ultimately lead to the creation of an ongoing teeter-totter between positive and negative thinking.
This constant battle is exhausting, it takes up so much mental energy. This is wasted energy that could arguably be better spent on creativity or imagination, among other things.

How Positive Thinking Teaches Us To Become More Judgmental

In order to distinguish the so-called positive and negative thoughts, we must judge them as one or the other. To be on the look-out for the bad guys all day (negative thoughts), this requires us to be judging our thoughts all day.
This teaches us to analyze our thinking, then segmenting each thought into positive or negative categories. I’m exhausted just thinking about doing this each day.

We don’t see the world as our experience, we experience our thoughts as the world we see.

Therefore, the more we judge ourselves, which includes the thoughts in our head, the more we judge the world outside of us, including others. This is not the way of a more peaceful and joyful life.
As soon as we judge a thought as negative we’ve given it life, quite the opposite of our intentions. If we don’t judge the thought, it passes by all on its’ own like a cloud in the sky. Letting the thought go with judgement allows room for the next thought to pass by.
If we hold our attention on a negative thought, it leaves no room for the next thought to come through, not until we let that one go.
Being able to see your thoughts without judgement is ultimately what brings peace. Trying to think positive all the time takes you further away from this and more woven into a neurotic and judgmental world.

Millionaire Method That Will Make You Achieve Your Dreams

Did you know that Olympic athletes and peak performers regularly use visualization to help them achieve their dreams faster.. Studies have shown that one hour of visualization is equivalent to seven hours of physical practice!
So how can you do it?
By using creative visualization to imagine future events happening now and vision boards. Using vision board on a daily basis can help your chances of success so much. Here’s how the use of a vision board could bring about a massive shift of fortune in your life.

The 3 Boards of Mega Success|
Vision Board | Millionaire Method

Vision boards are so effective because they provide you with a visual representation of what you are trying to achieve in your life. They became very popular after the movie, “The Secret” was released.The film showed how some of the most successful people made their visions come to life. John Assaraf, who was featured in the movie, talked about how he eventually moved into his dream home pictured on his vision board. It was the exact home he had imagined without even realizing it. At that point, he began to understand the power of programming your mind for success.

Vision boards are so effective because they help keep your top goals in front of you at all times. By using repetition and further visualizing or feeling yourself accomplishing what you’re trying to achieve, it creates strong neural pathways in the brain. And the more you visualize it on a consistent basis, the more you are wiring your brain for success.

While creating a vision board can help you achieve your goals and dreams, don’t forget the most important step is taking action. To attract success into your life remember the last five letters of attraction are “action.”

Accomplish Board | Millionaire Method     

As humans, we’re quick to forget our big accomplishments in pursuit of the next goal or dream. But it’s important to have reminders of all that you’ve achieved as well. Along with a vision board, John recommends creating an achievement board as well. On an achievement board, make sure you add things you’ve recently accomplished or are proud of in life. This could be things like a job promotion, new car, revenue goal in your business or something else. Little reminders about your past accomplishments will help you overcome doubt when going after new goals. They will help remind you that you’ve done a lot already and can do even more. Think about this as your brag board!

Crap Board | Millionaire Method
The last board is something I had never heard of until this interview. John talks about having a “crap board” that entails things you don’t want in your life. This could include people that are toxic, situations you want to avoid or habits you don’t need.
These three boards can help you remember your past accomplishments, train your brain for the future and avoid bad situations. A vision board pairs great with meditation, persistence, and affirmations to manifest your dreams.
To get started, buy a tri-fold board and make one-third of each your vision, accomplishment, and “crap” board. Review them each morning and night before going to bed to help reach your full potential this year.
Watch this as John Assaraf delivers another powerful mind-shift on how you think about accomplishing life goals.